Good morning everyone, I have love on my mind. It is a subject that is never far from my thoughts. I talk to so many people that are terrified to let loose and allow love to be a consistent part of their lives.
Why? Because, previous disappointments have left them feeling afraid, betrayed, lonely, unattractive, or undeserving of happiness. While all of those feelings can be a bit overwhelming at times. They are not reasons to turn your back on love. Love does not desert you, but sometimes people do.
The one thing I have learned from person experience and from working with others; is some people are only in our lives to fulfill a special purpose along our path of personal growth. And once that lesson is learned they move on or we move on. Yes, sometimes it feels sad when someone we care for so deeply exits our lives. But, instead of feeling a bunch of negative or unhappy emotions; try a new approach.
Rewrite your story; instead think about the things you are grateful for and the positives lessons you can take from the experiences you shared with your ex and then, let go. Let go knowing that you are graciously moving on and allowing life and love to provide you with a new love when the time is right for you.
Holding on to the past makes it nearly impossible to enjoy a happy and fun new love experience. So, be courageous and rewrite your love story. It will benefit you in a multitude of pleasant and unexpected ways.
Have a wonderful weekend,
Cyndi Harris, HP
Relationship Solutions Coach, Author, and Joyologist
http://undeniablyirresistible.com
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Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Saturday, May 11, 2013
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Interracial Dating - A Woman's Opinion
Have you ever thought about dating someone from an ethnic group other than your own? Yes, why? Curiosity, new dating options, etc. No, why not? Fear of other people's opinions, rejection, fear of the unknown, etc.
Interracial dating has become more noticeable than ever. I personally am happy to see that more men and women have the courage to love the man or woman of their choice. I have always dated who I liked regardless of the color of his skin. I have had the pleasure and good fortune to meet and go out with men literally from all around the world. American men; Asian, Black, and White. European men; Greek, French, Italian. Middle Eastern: Arabic and Iraseli.
These men have treated me like a queen. Regardless of whether it was a few dates or a few years, the time spent with these gentleman was educational, fun, and a wonderful experience. Spending time with them simply reaffirmed what I already knew. The color of a person's skin has nothing to do with the quality of a man. It is the person he has decided to become and be that determines his greatest and likability/lovability.
Some have remained friends; others have moved on and I no longer speak to them. Life has provided me with this wonderful opportunity for friendship and love because, I refuse to allow other people's opinions of what is right or wrong prevent me from living an abundant and satisfying love life.
As a relationship coach, I hear the moaning... "There are no good men left to date and/or marry." I know this is untrue. But, if you are determined to limit your options out of fear and misinformation then, yes you are working with a limited supply. Even better, if you are willing to be more open-minded and relinquish your unfounded fears. You open up a flood gate of dating and relationship opportunities.
So, if you have never dated outside of your ethnic group and are curious about how to make the transition as painless as possible. I can definitely help. I have heard my share of criticism; received the dirty looks form observers; and been at the other side of clueless remarks. I can show you real ways to move past the naysayers and learn that love truly is color blind. Life is a beautiful thing once you learn how to move past the constant need for other people's approval and open up your heart and mind to new possibilities.
Your life and who you love is a personal and private matter. Your choices can create or destroy love in your life. So, if you are ready to love without limits. Contact me at: (Click on the name) Interracial Dating. I can help you make the this new experience as exciting and painless as possible.
Wishing your unlimited joy and lasting love,
Cyndi Harris aka "Madam C"
Sunday, January 29, 2012
"How to Love a Man"
I created this mini series called "How to Love a Man." to help a woman invite her man or future man back into her life..
In our mission to become independent and self-reliant. We have left behind some of our greatest defenders and support... Our men. Yes, I said it... "Our men". A good man can be a woman's greatest asset just as a good woman can be a man's. We were created to admire, appreciate, and love each other. The gift we offer each other is far greater then we realize or understand.
We allow ourselves to become so overloaded with doubt, fear, and mistrust that we some times miss out on a great guy who is more than able and willing to step up and be that King you are searching for to build and create your empire, raise a family, or other live desires and goals you may have.
Ladies, men are not the enemy. They need us as much as we need them. Yes, I said, "We need them" because we do. Love is an emotion that is meant to be shared and as a woman we need to feel and bask in the "sunlight" that a loving man offers us. We need to share our "sunlight" as well. Nothing can replace the magic that happens within a happy, loving, passionate, and extraordinary relationship.
So, if you are struggling with finding ways to keep that flame alive within your current relationship or are ready to meet a new man and what to ensure greater success at finding and keeping him if you are single.
Watch the videos, they offer simple steps that can help you achieve the type of romantic relationship you have been searching for.
In our mission to become independent and self-reliant. We have left behind some of our greatest defenders and support... Our men. Yes, I said it... "Our men". A good man can be a woman's greatest asset just as a good woman can be a man's. We were created to admire, appreciate, and love each other. The gift we offer each other is far greater then we realize or understand.
We allow ourselves to become so overloaded with doubt, fear, and mistrust that we some times miss out on a great guy who is more than able and willing to step up and be that King you are searching for to build and create your empire, raise a family, or other live desires and goals you may have.
Ladies, men are not the enemy. They need us as much as we need them. Yes, I said, "We need them" because we do. Love is an emotion that is meant to be shared and as a woman we need to feel and bask in the "sunlight" that a loving man offers us. We need to share our "sunlight" as well. Nothing can replace the magic that happens within a happy, loving, passionate, and extraordinary relationship.
So, if you are struggling with finding ways to keep that flame alive within your current relationship or are ready to meet a new man and what to ensure greater success at finding and keeping him if you are single.
Watch the videos, they offer simple steps that can help you achieve the type of romantic relationship you have been searching for.
Friday, January 27, 2012
"How a Queen Attracts Her King"... Red Tent Wisdom with host Cyndi Harris 01/24 by Earth Angels Radio | Blog Talk Radio
Okay, ladies, are you ready to attract the type of man who makes your "heart sing"? Yes, then listen to this show which is part of my "How to Love a Man." series. This show is titled... "How a Queen Attracts Her King." Red Tent Wisdom with host Cyndi Harris 01/24 by Earth Angels Radio | Blog Talk Radio
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Red Tent Wisdom with host Cyndi Harris 01/10 by Earth Angels Radio | Blog Talk Radio
Red Tent Wisdom with host Cyndi Harris 01/10 by Earth Angels Radio | Blog Talk Radio Today's episode "Who is King of Your Castle?" replay. Learn how to find harmony and love within your romantic relationship.
Monday, September 26, 2011
Caring and Loving Men Do Exist... Read This
I just found this on Facebook posted in one of the groups I belong to. I had to pass this along to all of you.
If you have this type of man in your life, what are you willing to do to keep him by your side?
Copied from the facebook profile of Ogal Gaines. Ogal, thank you.
To every guy that's said, "Sex CAN wait"
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town to see her.
To every guy that gives her flowers and a card when she is sick or down.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because thats how he rolls.
To every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her. ....
To every guy that she cried in front of...
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that kisses her with meaning, and not jus cuz he's hard.
To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy who would give their jacket up for her.
To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.
To every guy that would sit and wait for her for hours just to see her for ten minutes.....
To every guy that would give his seat up...
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what.
To every guy who told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought maybe this could be the one.
To every guy that believed in her dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car and opened the door.
To every guy that gave his heart.
To every guy who prays that she is happy even if you are not with her.
Not many women appreciate nice guys anymore...
And because of this, there are not many of us left out there...
I guarantee 90% of the men on your page will not repost this cuz they care more about their image
You like this..
If you have this type of man in your life, what are you willing to do to keep him by your side?
Copied from the facebook profile of Ogal Gaines. Ogal, thank you.
To every guy that's said, "Sex CAN wait"
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town to see her.
To every guy that gives her flowers and a card when she is sick or down.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because thats how he rolls.
To every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her. ....
To every guy that she cried in front of...
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that kisses her with meaning, and not jus cuz he's hard.
To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy who would give their jacket up for her.
To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.
To every guy that would sit and wait for her for hours just to see her for ten minutes.....
To every guy that would give his seat up...
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what.
To every guy who told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought maybe this could be the one.
To every guy that believed in her dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car and opened the door.
To every guy that gave his heart.
To every guy who prays that she is happy even if you are not with her.
Not many women appreciate nice guys anymore...
And because of this, there are not many of us left out there...
I guarantee 90% of the men on your page will not repost this cuz they care more about their image
You like this..
Monday, September 19, 2011
Love Yourself First...
Hello everyone, I want to talk about the importance of loving yourself first. It seems like so many are looking to experience more love in their lives. Unfortunately, they keep looking outside of themselves to receive it. I was sitting in Starbucks reading and I could hear the conversation of the 2 women next to me.
Normally, I tune everything out around me, but one of the ladies was talking so loud that I couldn't avoid the conversation. She apparently was going through a breakup and was venting to her friend about all of the things her ex had not done for her. He did not pay enough attention to her, he did not seem to care about the things in her life that where important to her, he did not make her feel happy any more, and the list went on and on.
As I listened, I wanted to ask how did she fulfill those needs within herself. I am not claiming to know the full facts of her relationship, but too often, people want someone else to "carry" their emotional load for them or keep them entertained.
Relationships are not perfect. We each come in with our own dreams, hopes, and issues; some simple and some more complicated. This is why it is so important that we love ourselves first and foremost. Not in a selfish way, but in a way that cherishes, honors, and respects who we are. If you take the time to treat yourself beautifully and stop seeking approval, entertainment, or validation from another person. It enables you to get through the rocky moments that most relationships go through. You are able to maintain your personal power and emotional well-being. And guess what, it also encourages the person you love to treat you better as well.
Relationships are an amazing and interesting part of our lives. But, if you remember to appreciate, like, and love yourself independent of what someone else may or may not be doing for you. You will discover ways to experience more happiness. And if you do, then you are definitely living within your Goddess power. So, give yourself an hug and...
Have a sensuous and sexy day,
Cyndi Harris aka "Madame C"
http://yoursexybest.com
Normally, I tune everything out around me, but one of the ladies was talking so loud that I couldn't avoid the conversation. She apparently was going through a breakup and was venting to her friend about all of the things her ex had not done for her. He did not pay enough attention to her, he did not seem to care about the things in her life that where important to her, he did not make her feel happy any more, and the list went on and on.
As I listened, I wanted to ask how did she fulfill those needs within herself. I am not claiming to know the full facts of her relationship, but too often, people want someone else to "carry" their emotional load for them or keep them entertained.
Relationships are not perfect. We each come in with our own dreams, hopes, and issues; some simple and some more complicated. This is why it is so important that we love ourselves first and foremost. Not in a selfish way, but in a way that cherishes, honors, and respects who we are. If you take the time to treat yourself beautifully and stop seeking approval, entertainment, or validation from another person. It enables you to get through the rocky moments that most relationships go through. You are able to maintain your personal power and emotional well-being. And guess what, it also encourages the person you love to treat you better as well.
Relationships are an amazing and interesting part of our lives. But, if you remember to appreciate, like, and love yourself independent of what someone else may or may not be doing for you. You will discover ways to experience more happiness. And if you do, then you are definitely living within your Goddess power. So, give yourself an hug and...
Have a sensuous and sexy day,
Cyndi Harris aka "Madame C"
http://yoursexybest.com
Monday, September 12, 2011
Cougar Love
For some reason the term "Cougar" has been on my mind. As most of you know, "Cougar" is the word used to describe and an older woman who dates younger men. I love the word, even though, I have been involved in a couple of potentially heated debates with women who find the word offensive. In their minds, the word describes older women who are desperately seeking the attention of younger men.
Have a sensuous and sexy day.
Really? Well, I do not know what planet these particular women are living on. Women like Demi Moore, Tina Turner, Joan Collins, and May West, a few stars noted for dating and marrying younger men, do not seem desperate to me. And the women I know, like myself, who date younger men are far from desperate as well. Dating younger men is hardly a new trend. It has been going on for years.
These so-called "cubs" aka younger men are rather persistent suitors, who quite confidently pursue us. These men make it very clear that they find older women attractive, intelligent, and extremely sexy. And here's a newsflash... the majority of these men are not looking for a meal ticket or free ride. I have been told time and time again that they have a hard time relating to younger women and prefer the elegance, excitement, and experience of someone older.
These so-called "cubs" aka younger men are rather persistent suitors, who quite confidently pursue us. These men make it very clear that they find older women attractive, intelligent, and extremely sexy. And here's a newsflash... the majority of these men are not looking for a meal ticket or free ride. I have been told time and time again that they have a hard time relating to younger women and prefer the elegance, excitement, and experience of someone older.
I applaud these guys. They know what and who they want and are learning how to approach us and keep us interested in them. Think about this for a second... within this group there are many up and coming brilliant businessmen in their late 20's to late 30's. These younger men are the creators of businesses like internet training, social media, and other tools we use today. Or at the very least understand how to use the products and have created successful businesses (on and offline) that cater to the world. They are very driven individuals and they want to share their success with someone who can appreciate what they are doing. So, they look to older women. Our life experience is attractive to them.
As an older women who does date younger men. I admit initially I was skeptical. Especially, when I have guys as young as my sons hitting on me. But, when I finally decided to relax and enjoy the company of someone younger than me. I was pleasantly surprised.
He was 12 years younger than me and had 2 thriving and successful businesses and was creating a third one that has become quite successful as well. He was great company, interesting to talk to, a sensual and passionate lover. He was an absolute gentleman. We had a wonderful time together. The relationship only ended because, he wanted to get married and I was not ready. I learned a great deal from him and since him have dated other younger men. I love their appreciation and enthusiasm for us.
So, the next time a younger guy approaches you and expresses an interest in getting to know you. If you are single, don't be so quick to discourage his attention. Spend a little time getting to know him; you may be in for a beautiful and sexy surprise. Let the wisdom of your inner Sex Goddess come out to play and bask in the admiration of someone who has the intelligence and good taste to appreciate you.
He was 12 years younger than me and had 2 thriving and successful businesses and was creating a third one that has become quite successful as well. He was great company, interesting to talk to, a sensual and passionate lover. He was an absolute gentleman. We had a wonderful time together. The relationship only ended because, he wanted to get married and I was not ready. I learned a great deal from him and since him have dated other younger men. I love their appreciation and enthusiasm for us.
So, the next time a younger guy approaches you and expresses an interest in getting to know you. If you are single, don't be so quick to discourage his attention. Spend a little time getting to know him; you may be in for a beautiful and sexy surprise. Let the wisdom of your inner Sex Goddess come out to play and bask in the admiration of someone who has the intelligence and good taste to appreciate you.
Have a sensuous and sexy day.
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