I have been focusing on the topic of love, romance, and the importance of serenity in your life. I have been thinking about the behaviors far too many women do that keep them single.
I am all for the business success and other lifetime achievements woman are enjoying. Unfortunately, the things we do and way we act in business or any other nonromantic interest can ruin our chances at:
- Attracting
- Creating
- And maintaining a successful romance.
As more and more women are staying single and opting out of the dating world because, of a lousy dating track record. I thought I would offer a few insights to the problem and hopefully an easy solution to jumpstart more fun and fulfillment around the topic of dating.
There is one main thing a woman can do on a first date that will 9 times out of 10 prevent a man from calling her back for a second date.
It is:
- Firing questions at him like you are a drill sargent or the manager of a company hiring someone for a new position.
Too often, women who are ready to settle down and are tired of the unpredictable cycle of dating; confuse asking questions to get to know a new guy with the need to interrogate him.
They claim they are tired of wasting their time with men who are unwilling to commit so, they want to know upfront his thoughts on fidelity, marriage, children, sex, etc.
Really? How are you really going to learn someone's true feelings about long-term relationships, marriage, children, etc. on the first date? A 1 1/2 to 2 hour date is not going to offer you any real information about the man who is sitting on the other side of the table.
But, women, who are using these types of fear-driven dating tactics. Are losing the interest of good men faster than ice melts in lava. He says good bye and she never hears from him again. Which makes her decide; he is unable to commit.
Not true, most men when faced with this uncomfortable situation; figure you have no real interest in getting to know them and are simply looking for someone to fit into the tux and be waiting at the end of the aisle for you at your wedding.
Note: We saw this sad scenario play out with Kim Kardashian and Chris Humphries. It was a marriage that never should have happpened, but they got caught up in the hype. Kim K. is not the only woman guilty of this type of disaster. She seems to have learned and I wish her the best as Mrs. West.
So, ladies, here's a tip. If you are ready to find Mr. Right and get on the marriage track. Learn how to date with finesse. Relax, have fun, and ask simple "Get to know you" questions that allow your date to reveal himself to you without feeling like a caged animal at the zoo.
Ask simple open-ended questions. You can create these from the information he shared on his profile about hobbies and interests. Then, allow him to ask you some easy and fun questions too.
Allow the elegance and joy of a real conversation be the teaser that makes him want to see you again. Give this a chance and see how easily you improve your chances of finding lasting romance.
Romance is not dead. Women simply need to stop "clubbing it over the head" and return to the pleasure in the process of meeting someone new.
Enjoy!
